Let me get this clear:
• All people of all ages – children, teens, adolescents and adults – have sexual urges / feelings.
• These urges are a normal and usual part of development – NOT to be ashamed of or to be assumed ‘bad’, ‘wrong’ or ‘immoral’.
• Adults have the responsibility to set boundaries and allow young people to explore / experiment with these urges safely (this exploration / experimentation includes sexual behaviour and experience, being attracted to other people, learning how to attract other people).
• It is ok for young people to experiment with, and learn about, their sexual behaviour and the boundaries set by adults.
• It is NOT ok for adults to abuse and exploit the need of young people to learn about these boundaries.
• It is NOT ok for young people to be persecuted / negatively judged for behaving sexually.
• It is NOT ok for the behaviour of abusive adults to be allowed because the child has had sexual experiences / urges / feelings.
• An abusive adult and an abused child are NOT two people ‘tangoing’. They are not working at the same task.
• The abusive adult works at manipulating and feeling powerful; the abused child works at trying to negotiate their physical and emotional development when confronted with a confusing and frightening betrayal of trust.
That seems clear to me.